Amazing how women talk amongst themselves and about other women. I never realized how “dirty” some women talk nor how actually catty or competitive they are until I became one. Over the past couple of years I have become good friends with one of the other waitresses I work with and am now included into her circle of friends. No for the record they do not know of my past, to them I am just another middle aged divorcee trying to make it in the world.
Last night Janet (my waitress comrade), Liz (a mutual friend who is a waitress at another family owned restaurant), and I all met for a nice dinner, something we treat ourselves to every couple of weeks. It was a nice Italian place and we had a table near the waiting area, thank heavens for reservations! As we sat there having dinner we all had a good view of the door and could see just about everyone coming and going. Amazing how catty our remarks got about the female patrons as they came and went.
We criticized how they dressed with comments like she is old enough to know not to wear that or their companions like wonder if his wife knows about her. I guess what amazes me is how easily I fell into the chatter and how I made comments like she should have looked in the mirror after she poured herself into those slacks!
When I first started down this road I would have never talked like that. I was not shy but I was raised with 3 sisters and my mother and never would my mother have allowed my sisters to criticize another woman like that when they were in public. I remember once a while back m one sister saying something to my mother about how a woman at church had a big rear end and her skirt did nothing to hide it. My sister was maybe 17 or so back then, she is 2 ½ years younger than me, and all my mother did was smile at her and tell her wait until she had a couple of kids and she would better understand. My how times have changed!
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Oh yes, my sister, men don't know what they are missing. The meanest things i've ever heard came out of the mouths of women, and frequently accompanyied with a smile.
I also know that it is easy for me to slip right into that kind of talk. That is why i'm very careful. I am on the fringe of several circles of women but i make it a point not to spend too much time with any one circle.
When i see that a circle is "getting on its catty" (my expression) then i excuse myself. I don't dish and i know that i'm critisized because of that. So be it.
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